There are some things that I learnt in 2018, some things made me better, and some things I had to fight through. It was one interesting year for me, and apparently many others too, judging by the memes circulating on social media. Going into the new year I have a lot of things I want to accomplish, a lot of things that I want to make a priority, and there are a couple of things I want to get straight with myself. So dear 2019 me, here’s what I need you to know, come back to this and read it occasionally, I want you to remember it.
For the next year I want you to remember who you are, don’t ever get lost looking through Facebook or Instagram (I know how you love to lose yourself in that world). Remember what you stand for and what you believe in, build that. Build who you are, and whether or not its a success build it. Keep at it, you’ll get tired, you’ll get discouraged, but keep at it. Because being who you are is more valuable to everyone than you trying to impersonate someone else.
Having said that, I want you to stop focusing on what other people are doing. Start focusing on doing what you want to do. Build your life, instead of watching others build their own. This sounds easy, but I want you to remind yourself to celebrate other peoples success, celebrate when they do things you wish you could, your time is coming.
2019 is the year of only seeing the good in life, chose to see God in people and in situations. Change isn’t always bad, it’s mostly good. Embrace the ability to be able to change, life was never meant to stay still. It will constantly change, and whether or not you like it, it’s going to happen, so don’t let it have a negative impact on you.
Allow yourself to have bad days. It’s okay, learn to forgive yourself. No one is perfect and you most certainly aren’t. It might seem like the end of the world, but truly your world hasn’t even started yet, there are so many people who you still have to make smile, who still need you. Guilt is not something you need in your backpack of life, get over yourself, forgive and practice love and patience with everyone, including yourself. Don’t forget how you felt on your bad days, and show people the light when they have bad days. You’ve been there too.
STOP BEING SO LAZY! You have some great ideas, learn to trust yourself and go out and work for them, luck is not just going to fall into your lap, get out there and work for what you want. Stop keeping up with the Kardashians and build your own empire. People are going to mock you, and tell you you’ll never make it. Listen to them, and then learn from them, because it will be those people who aren’t working on themselves. It will be those people who in 2 years time will be asking how you got so lucky. Those are the people you need to listen to, because there will be many of them, and they will be your greatest fans.
Last but definitely not least don’t forget to work on yourself, your relationships and your private life. Instagram, Youtube and your blog means very little in the grand scheme of things. Focus on what’s important, don’t lose sight of whose you are this year. Don’t forget why you do what you do, and the responsibilities that you have in sharing love to the world. Make yourself better, not only for you, but for others. Bring something to the table, and if you can’t sit at the table and listen to those who can.
Remember why you started this, and don’t give up until you’re happy with what you’ve achieved. Push yourself, but don’t fall of the edge of the cliff. Wander along the edge and peer into the valleys, look up to the mountains and show others what you’ve found.
See God in the places you visit, in the strangers on the street and then share that love with the people around you, build a community focused on looking for only the good in people, pulling out the gold in places, situations and circumstances. Stop looking for things to gossip about and start looking for reasons to love. Love harder, love always and never ever stop remembering to be brave.
In a world where it takes effort to be kind, and love when there seems to be no reason, do it anyway. Do it anyway, because you have been given a love that will never run out, be brave in sharing it. You’ll have children one day who will look up to you, remember that you are being watched. Make sure that they have a good role model. Make sure they are strong enough to love, even when it hurts.
Remember, always, that you are a warrior, you’re brave and you are loved, so so loved.
Now go out and love others.